Eliminate this Two-Letter Word from Your Vocabulary!

How do you deal with dead, empty space while speaking? Do you pause contemplatively letting your listener take in the information you are sharing? Or instead of quietly pausing, do you fill it up the space with something--anything--just to avoid the silence? If you have the tendency to fill the space with words, you are not alone!

Here are some common words and phrases that many people use to fill space while speaking. See if you recognize any of them in your own speech:

"um" and "uh" "You know what I mean?" and "You know?" "and stuff" "anyway" "like" "and" (or another conjunction used to string sentences together)

An alternative to this habit is the adoption of a unique phrase or word. For example, on a recent trip to the computer store, the gentleman working with me said, "BAM!" every time he showed me something on the computer. He would type in an instruction, hit "return" and say "BAM!" When he printed something off for me, he said "BAM! There it is." It was cute but none-the-less distracting.

One of the worse cases I've seen of someone using word fillers was seeing a colleague include fillers in writing! It was almost like his fillers were a part of his thinking process!

In spontaneous conversation or while making a presentation, fillers distract and bore the listener. Why? For one thing, the natural flow of speech is interrupted and the speech sounds disjointed. This causes the listener to be distracted making it more difficult to follow the story line.

Secondly, word fillers tend not to add value or meaning to the topic. Even "you know what I mean?" is meaningless if used too often and if the speaker doesn't actually wait for a response. Once again, it takes away from the speaker's message.

Fillers like the ones mentioned above aren't just distracting. They diminish our presence as professionals. Imagine an effective speaker whom you enjoy listening to. Does he/she have word fillers in speech? The recent presidential nominations offer us many opportunities to listen and observe many speakers. The speakers who use "um" are less polished and less effective.

Consider how you feel when you experience a person talking with word fillers. Do you get annoyed? Or feel impatient? Do you listen to the message or do you tune him/her out?

To figure out if you use fillers and just how often, ask a partner whom you trust to listen to you while you speak for a minute. Tell a short story and introduce yourself in 60 seconds. Ask your partner to count the number and type of fillers that you use in one minute. Another technique is to record yourself speaking on the telephone and then listen to the recording and count instances of "ums" or other fillers in your speech. Bringing awareness of this habit to a conscious level can be humiliating!

Once you have awareness of your speech, pick a time during the day that you can work on eliminating this behavior. An excellent place to start to making changes to your speech is while you speak on the telephone. Again, tape record your end of the conversation and listen to yourself after the call, you will be able to monitor changes even better. Establish a goal of reducing the number of "um"s you will use that is less than the number you use now. A few "ums" aren't distracting but a lot of them are. Work towards using none or 1-2 in a minute.

Like anything else, developing new behaviours takes time, patience and practice. Being an effective, polished speaker is hard work but reaps benefits if achieved!

Copyright (c) 2008 Lynda Stucky

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Lynda Stucky, President and owner of ClearlySpeaking, is a speaking coach for emerging speakers. Her background in speech pathology offers unique skills for dealing with professional communication skills in the corporate world. She has trained and educated individuals, businesses and groups on effective speaking skills, foreign and regional accent modification, the spoken image and vocal hygiene. www.clearly-speaking.com

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